DEAR MAN, HERE’S WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT ME
La Val, 22 Sep. 2025Hey there,HAVE YOU THOUGHT aBOUT YOUR STORY?
Here’s a bit of mine.
I’m Sara (pronounced SAA-RAA, with an Italian accent, as that’s where I’m originally from), and this is my first-ever letter to you.
My motivation, hope, and desire for these letters is to feel useful, meaningful, and like a real conversation between you and me. I write them imagining driving to “The Mailbox” along the road, opening it, leaving my letter for you, and finding a response from you.
A real exchange. Thoughts, tools, and tips. Letters for the road, from me to you and back, for your journey to take back control of your life.
You like your bike customised and your beer crafted — that's exactly how I do things. Made to fit you and me. This is why each letter will begin with a question intended to prompt you to pause, think, become curious, and then share more with me. The more you let me know what’s on your mind, what you’re curious about, and what’s going on, the more I can show up in a way that matters to you.
I’ll go first and tell you about me.
I’m the Founder & Chief Pathfinder over here at Driftwood.
Resilience is my craft.
Coaching, rest, and movement are my power tools.
Trauma-informed, body-based, custom-made is how I roll.
I guide guarded, scarred, stand-up men to take control of their lives, moving from hiding, self-sabotage, and silent suffering to feeling solid, strong, and driven.
I’ve been doing this since 2015 and hold multiple certifications in various modalities, which translates into a trauma-informed, body-based approach that blends coaching, embodiment, nervous system, neuroscience, rest, and movement.
When I’m not having a blast doing what I do best with my rockstar clients, you’ll find me on long rides with Artax, my Fat Boy, off the beaten path, outdoors, travelling, learning something new, creating, dancing, and probably barefoot.
I choose to “Work like a captain and play like a pirate.” If you’re nodding along, then we’re going to go places.
I have both street creds and book smarts. Other than my coaching background and expertise, I hold two business degrees and have a past corporate career. You can read more about this here.
ALIVE. REAL. FREE.
This is the driving force behind who I am and why I do what I do — in business and life.
People say, “You’re crazy!” — the good kind of wild and crazy — I hear it all the time. It’s one consistent thing my circle likes about me. I’m not everyone’s shot of whiskey, that’s for sure.
I’m resilient, passionate, and loyal. I keep my word, call out BS when I smell it, and I have standards. I’m fierce, honest, and a straight shooter.
I march to the beat of my own drum.
I ride solo through unknown places, without a destination or a map. I take risks — I’m the first to jump and build the parachute while having a blast in the free fall. I wear my heart on my sleeve and follow my gut because it feels right.
Great company and solitude — I love these just as much. I speak my mind and heart out loud and don’t beat around any bushes. Most importantly, I’m allergic to BS, drama, politics, lies, and talk without action. I value being real, feeling alive, and living free above anything else.
If you’re still reading this, I have a feeling we have lots in common.
I understand labels and not fitting in.
People often tell me I’m “too much.” Following others’ rules and being forced into a box made me angry. So what did I do? Got mad, rebelled, fought back, damaged relationships, and hurt others (and me too, losing myself in the process). Not knowing how to communicate or create healthy relationships, I’d wind up feeling lost and betrayed — often with a broken heart and not knowing who I was.
And feeling that I would be better off by myself, independent, lone wolf, building walls and keeping everyone at a distance. Not trusting others would “stay” or keep their word because they hardly ever did.
I haven't always been this clear about who I am or aware of my gifts and strengths.
I couldn’t always stand strong in my identity or even feel comfortable showing up fully. It took a while (and lots of personal, still ongoing, work) to realise that all the people I’d attracted had nothing to do with me being broken. I used to think that something was wrong with me and that I was attracting the same fabric I was made of — like attracts like, right?
It turns out it was the opposite. Darkness seeks light. Those hurting look for medicine, which I give in the form of presence, loyalty, and stability.
After struggling through twists and turns, I now know that my resilience, strength, and aliveness attracted those who needed to be seen, accepted, and supported. I got to show them the possibilities.
After picking up the pieces and starting over (more than once), I now know that I no longer need to lose myself to fit in. I don’t need to make myself small for others to be comfortable. I’m at my best when I stand unshakeable in who I am. Only then can I fully show up for you. And that doesn’t mean that I’ll pick up the weight you’re lugging around. Everyone carries their own shit around here.
Before embracing my nature, I struggled. And I still struggle at times because it’s an ongoing process. I don’t tell you all this to act as if I’ve “made it.” I’m on the ride too.
Stick around long enough and ride things out with me, and you’ll realise we’re cut from the same cloth.
Be alive.Be real.Be free.…and off I go!Ciao, SaraPS: What’s one part of your story you’d most like to rewrite? Email me and let me know.